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Rest well Dad
Published on June 3, 2005 By Nebraskawoman In Life Journals
I don't know if anyone noticed but I've been gone for about a week. It's been a hard week. My parents were coming up to see my son graduate from Preschool when my dad started having problems breathing. My mom took hom to the emergency room where they discovered that he had a leaking heart valve. He has had numerous health problems through out the years and he didn't want to go through another surgery. Plus the doctor didn't know if he would even survive the surgery. He stayed in the hospital a couple days and passed away on the 26th.
It's been hard but so far all of us are doing ok. I miss him terribly and am majorly stressed out right now. I came home from my parents house to find that for some reason we are having electrical problems and can't get them fixed until tomorrow. So we are staying with my inlaws for the evening. Hopefully things will get better. I don't know if my sanity can deal with anything else.
Well, I feel a little better now that I got that off my chest. I still miss my father but he is in a better place and not in constant pain anymore. So Rest well Dad. I hope to see you again someday.

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on Jun 03, 2005

I don't know if anyone noticed but I've been gone for about a week. It's been a hard week. My parents were coming up to see my son graduate from Preschool when my dad started having problems breathing. My mom took hom to the emergency room where they discovered that he had a leaking heart valve. He has had numerous health problems through out the years and he didn't want to go through another surgery. Plus the doctor didn't know if he would even survive the surgery. He stayed in the hospital a couple days and passed away on the 26th.
It's been hard but so far all of us are doing ok. I miss him terribly and am majorly stressed out right now. I came home from my parents house to find that for some reason we are having electrical problems and can't get them fixed until tomorrow. So we are staying with my inlaws for the evening. Hopefully things will get better. I don't know if my sanity can deal with anything else.
Well, I feel a little better now that I got that off my chest. I still miss my father but he is in a better place and not in constant pain anymore. So Rest well Dad. I hope to see you again someday.




I know "exactly" how you feel. I just lost mine on memorial day from a massive coranary! Mom and Dad had just had a new matress delivered and the cheap, stubborn bugger figured he put it in himself! Half way done he lost his breath and sat down on the floor. By the time Mom got to him, he was gone! Both yours and mine will be sorely missed I think. And by more than just you or me. I am barely hanging on to my sanity. And then only because my Dad would expect nothing less from me. Damn I hate having to be the stong older son for everyone else. I guess this will catch up with me sooner or later and I'll grieve then. In the mean time, hang on to the good memories of him. Believe me it'll help. I just hope I get to see mine again someday. He knew how much he meant to me but I don't think I ever told him that. In time the hole in your heart will heal.
on Jun 03, 2005
So sorry to hear the news NW. Take care. We'll be thinking of you.
on Jun 03, 2005
So sorry NB.... I know the pain you are feeling... I lost both my parents. Yes, it is a comfort knowing we will be with them again one day.
Sorry for your loss as well Dr. Milner.
on Jun 03, 2005
My Thoughts and prayers are with you and your family Nebraska.
on Jun 03, 2005
I know how ypou feel about the loss of your father. My deepest feeling of sorrow at this loss. May you have the courage to come out of this loss and I do know how you would be feeling.
on Jun 03, 2005
Hey NW...I'm sorry for your loss, sweetie. It has to be hard, losing a parent.

Drmiler, I'm sorry to hear about your dad too. I know that it sucks to have to be strong all the time....but you can do it.

I'll have good thoughts for the both of you today...
on Jun 03, 2005
I'd like to thank everyone who responded. Thank you for all the thoughts and prayers and wishes.
on Jun 03, 2005
I'm so sorry at your loss NW. My condolences to you and your family.

My condolences to Dr. Miler too. It's hard losing a loved one. My father passed away four years ago and my mom only last August. It doesn't get any easier, but like you said, they're not in pain anymore.

God bless.
on Jun 03, 2005


I'm so sorry at your loss NW. My condolences to you and your family.

My condolences to Dr. Miler too. It's hard losing a loved one. My father passed away four years ago and my mom only last August. It doesn't get any easier, but like you said, they're not in pain anymore.

God bless.


A loss this deep will "fade" with time. But it will never go away. And it will not fade quickly.
What I'm worried about is that this could cost me my last surviving grandparent. My Dad's mom is still alive. He is the first of 4 sons to go. A parent should not have to bury one of their child.
on Jun 03, 2005
A loss this deep will "fade" with time. But it will never go away. And it will not fade quickly.


Time heals all wounds....but also wounds all heels.

I'd be more worried if it didn't affect you, Dr. I have some quotes and thoughts I'd like to send you...can you drop me an email so I can send them?
on Jun 03, 2005
I would but I don't have your email address.
on Jun 03, 2005
Sorry to hear about your loss. It's good to see you back and blogging, though.
on Jun 03, 2005
My Dad's mom is still alive. He is the first of 4 sons to go. A parent should not have to bury one of their child.


I think this is the hardest thing a parent can ever do.
this could cost me my last surviving grandparent. My Dad's mom is still alive.


It's wonderful you still have her around. All my grandparents are gone as well. Now my children only have one surviving grandparent, my husband's mom. This year will be his first father's day without his dad. I try to have my children talk to their grandmother a lot and send pictures and communicate often. Family is precious, sometimes it's too bad when they don't get along and only get together when someone has died. To that effect we're having a family reunion at the end of the year in my native country. Alas it's only my mom's side of the family, but it's a start!
on Jun 03, 2005
Thanks everyone.
I'm sorry to hear about your Dad Dr. I imagine you are like my older brother and trying to help everyone else first. Just make sure you do take time for yourself. When I lost one of my brothers 3 yrs ago our oldest brother held everything in and took care of all of us. According to my sister-in-law it hit him really hard later on. Like you said the pain never goes away but you can learn to deal with it.
Thanks again for all of the thoughts and prayers. I deeply appreciate it.
on Jun 04, 2005

#11 by dharmagrl
Friday, June 03, 2005





A loss this deep will "fade" with time. But it will never go away. And it will not fade quickly.


Time heals all wounds....but also wounds all heels.

I'd be more worried if it didn't affect you, Dr. I have some quotes and thoughts I'd like to send you...can you drop me an email so I can send them?


D send to this address and then I'll respond with regular e-mail address drmiler@yahoo.com